I understand you're concerned about physical attraction in your relationship, but this is a relationship question, not a medical one, and the evidence provided relates to cardiovascular disease and sexual counseling in medical contexts.
This Question Falls Outside Medical Consultation
The concern you've raised about your partner's physical attraction is a relationship and interpersonal issue that requires couples counseling or relationship therapy, not medical consultation. While I have access to medical literature about sexual counseling for cardiac patients and the role of relationships in cardiovascular health, these sources are not designed to address general relationship concerns about attraction.
What You Actually Need
Based on the research evidence about desire discrepancies and attraction in relationships:
- Direct communication is essential - Research shows that adults managing desire discrepancies use strategies including communication, alternative behaviors, and open discussion 1
- Perceived loss of attraction is common in long-term relationships and can be addressed through couples therapy, particularly emotionally focused therapy 2
- Changes in attraction significantly impact relationship satisfaction - Studies show that change in attraction to partner is the most salient predictor of sexual satisfaction, accounting for 20% of variance 3
Appropriate Next Steps
Seek a licensed couples therapist or relationship counselor who specializes in:
- Desire discrepancies in relationships
- Emotionally focused therapy for couples
- Communication strategies for intimate partnerships
The medical literature I have access to addresses sexual counseling only in the context of cardiovascular disease, stroke recovery, and cardiac rehabilitation 4, 5 - contexts that don't apply to your situation unless there's an underlying medical condition you haven't mentioned.
If there are actual medical concerns (erectile dysfunction, hormonal issues, medication side effects, chronic illness affecting intimacy), then a medical consultation would be appropriate, but that would require specific medical symptoms, not general relationship concerns about attraction.