From the Guidelines
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is a highly recommended treatment for individuals struggling with emotional trauma following divorce, as it has been shown to be effective in processing painful memories, reducing anxiety and depression symptoms, and improving overall quality of life 1.
Key Applications of EMDR After Divorce
- Processing painful divorce-related memories
- Reducing anxiety and depression symptoms
- Addressing feelings of rejection or abandonment
- Managing anger toward an ex-spouse
- Healing from infidelity trauma
How EMDR Works
EMDR therapy typically involves 8-12 weekly sessions lasting 60-90 minutes each, though this varies based on individual needs. During sessions, a therapist guides the client through bilateral stimulation (eye movements, taps, or tones) while focusing on distressing divorce memories, helping the brain reprocess these experiences. EMDR works by activating both hemispheres of the brain, allowing traumatic memories to be processed similarly to REM sleep, reducing their emotional charge.
Benefits of EMDR
Unlike traditional talk therapy, EMDR doesn't require extensive discussion of painful experiences, making it appealing to those who find it difficult to verbalize their divorce trauma. For optimal results, clients should find a certified EMDR therapist with experience in relationship trauma and be prepared to experience temporary emotional discomfort during the healing process. According to the 2023 U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs and U.S. Department of Defense clinical practice guideline, EMDR is a recommended treatment for posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and acute stress disorder, and its effectiveness has been supported by strong evidence 1.
From the Research
Relevant Applications of EMDR after Divorce
- EMDR therapy can be used to address psychological and physical symptoms stemming from adverse life experiences, such as divorce 2
- It has been shown to be effective in reducing symptoms of anxiety, panic, phobia, and behavioral/somatic symptoms 3
- EMDR therapy can be used to treat post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in adults, which may be relevant for individuals experiencing trauma related to divorce 4, 5, 6
- The therapy has been found to be more effective than waitlist/usual care and other therapies in reducing PTSD symptoms, and has been shown to be equally effective as trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (TF-CBT) immediately post-treatment 5
- EMDR therapy may be beneficial for individuals experiencing anxiety, depression, or other mental health issues related to divorce, as it has been shown to improve symptoms and reduce distress 3, 4, 6
Potential Benefits of EMDR after Divorce
- Reduced symptoms of anxiety, depression, and PTSD
- Improved emotional regulation and coping skills
- Enhanced ability to process and integrate traumatic experiences
- Increased sense of control and empowerment
- Improved relationships and social functioning
Considerations for EMDR Therapy after Divorce
- EMDR therapy should only be conducted by a trained and licensed therapist
- The therapy may not be suitable for everyone, particularly those with severe mental health issues or unstable living situations
- EMDR therapy may be used in conjunction with other therapies, such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) or medication, to enhance treatment outcomes 4, 5