Resources for Reporting Partner Harassment Related to STD Testing
If you are experiencing harassment from your partner through excessive texting about STD testing, this is a form of intimate partner violence (IPV) and you should contact local domestic violence resources, law enforcement if you feel unsafe, and inform your healthcare provider who can connect you with appropriate support services.
Understanding This as Intimate Partner Violence
- Harassment through repeated unwanted communication, including excessive texting, constitutes psychological abuse within intimate partner violence, which affects nearly 31% of women in their lifetime 1
- Psychological harm by a current or former partner falls under the definition of IPV, regardless of whether physical violence is present 1
- The mental health consequences of IPV include depression, anxiety disorders, posttraumatic stress disorder, and other chronic conditions that significantly impact quality of life 1
Immediate Resources and Reporting Options
Healthcare Provider as First Point of Contact
- Your primary care physician or any healthcare provider should routinely screen for IPV and can provide referrals to appropriate resources 1
- Healthcare providers are trained to respond appropriately and connect you with community-based domestic violence programs 1
- Document the harassment with your provider, who can help you develop a safety plan 1
Domestic Violence Hotlines and Services
- Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline or local domestic violence programs for immediate support, safety planning, and legal guidance 1
- These services provide confidential assistance and can help you understand your options without requiring you to take immediate action 1
- Community-based domestic violence programs offer training, information, and resources for effective management of IPV situations 1
Law Enforcement
- If you feel unsafe or threatened, contact local law enforcement to report harassment 1
- Many jurisdictions have specific laws regarding harassment and stalking behavior, including through electronic communication 1
- Be aware that reporting requirements vary by state - some mandate reporting of IPV while others do not 1
Important Considerations About Privacy and Confidentiality
Your Rights
- You have the right to confidential STD testing and treatment without being harassed by your partner 2
- Healthcare providers must comply with privacy regulations under HIPAA, which protect your health information from unauthorized disclosure 1
- Your STD test results are confidential and should only be shared with you directly 2
State-Specific Reporting Laws
- Reporting requirements for IPV vary significantly by jurisdiction - some states mandate reporting while others do not 1
- All 50 states mandate reporting of suspected child or elder abuse, but IPV reporting laws differ 1
- Your healthcare provider should be familiar with local reporting requirements and can guide you 1
Addressing the STD Testing Component
Partner Notification Done Properly
- Legitimate partner notification for STDs should be done through proper channels - either you notify partners voluntarily, or health department professionals do so confidentially 1
- Health departments protect privacy in all partner notification activities and never reveal the source of the notification 1
- Harassment and excessive texting is NOT appropriate partner notification - this crosses into abusive behavior 1
If You Have an STD Diagnosis
- You can request that your local or state health department handle partner notification confidentially without revealing your identity 1
- This removes you from direct confrontation and protects your safety 1
- Health department staff are trained professionals who conduct these notifications with confidentiality 1
Red Flags That Require Immediate Action
- If harassment escalates to threats of physical harm, contact law enforcement immediately 1
- If you feel your safety is at risk, prioritize getting to a safe location 1
- Any restriction of your ability to make healthcare decisions, including STD testing choices, is a form of control and abuse 3
Practical Next Steps
- Contact your healthcare provider and explicitly state you are experiencing partner harassment - they can screen you for IPV and provide referrals 1
- Call a domestic violence hotline for confidential guidance on safety planning and legal options 1
- Document all harassing communications (save texts, emails, voicemails) as evidence 1
- Consider blocking or limiting communication with your partner if safe to do so 1
- If you need STD testing, your provider can arrange confidential testing and handle any necessary partner notification through official channels 1, 2
Common Pitfalls to Avoid
- Do not assume this behavior will stop on its own - harassment often escalates without intervention 1
- Do not feel obligated to respond to harassing messages - this may reinforce the behavior 1
- Do not let your partner control your healthcare decisions, including whether and when to get STD testing 3
- Do not assume you must handle this alone - multiple resources exist specifically to help people in your situation 1