Managing Grief in Adults: A Practical Guide
Grief is a normal response to loss that typically does not require medication, but when symptoms become persistent, disabling, and interfere with daily functioning—termed complicated grief—evidence-based psychotherapy (specifically Complicated Grief Therapy) should be initiated, with SSRIs like sertraline considered as adjunctive treatment only when grief remains refractory after 8 weeks of psychotherapy or when comorbid major depression is present. 1, 2
Understanding Normal vs. Complicated Grief
Normal Grief Characteristics
- Preoccupation with the loss, somatic distress, waves of sadness, and temporary withdrawal from usual activities are expected responses 3
- Most bereaved individuals do not require professional intervention beyond supportive care 1
- Grieving is normal and generally takes time to resolve naturally 4
Recognizing Complicated Grief
Complicated grief requires formal intervention when the following symptoms persist beyond 6-12 months: 4, 1
- Recurring intrusive thoughts about the loss that interfere with daily functioning 4
- Persistent preoccupation with sorrow and ruminating behavior 4
- Excessive bitterness and anger 4
- Alienation from social contacts and difficulty accepting the loss 4
- Loss of perceived purpose in life 4
- Considerable morbidity and mortality risk 1
Critical distinction: Complicated grief differs from major depression—grief symptoms focus specifically on the loss and the deceased person, whereas depression involves pervasive hopelessness and loss of self-worth across all domains 3
Self-Care Recommendations for Normal Grief
Provide these specific self-care instructions to all grieving patients: 4
- Physical basics: Eat regular, nutritious meals; maintain hydration; exercise regularly even when unmotivated 4
- Routine maintenance: Try to maintain usual daily routines as much as possible 4
- Social connection: Stay connected with others (including digitally) and talk openly about feelings 4
- Emotional acceptance: Allow yourself to experience negative emotions without judgment—the grieving process fluctuates over time and cannot be rushed 4
When to Seek Professional Support
Refer patients for psychosocial support when they experience: 4
- Anticipatory grief concerns (e.g., "What do I tell my children?" "How will my family cope?") 4
- Descriptions of profound loss (loss of role, identity, income, purpose) 4
- Signs of complicated grief as described above 4
- Comorbid depression or anxiety symptoms 4
- Risk of self-harm or suicidal ideation 4
Evidence-Based Psychotherapy: First-Line Treatment
For complicated grief, initiate Complicated Grief Therapy (CGT), a specialized evidence-based intervention that addresses seven core themes: 1
- Understanding and accepting grief as a normal but painful process 1
- Managing painful emotions through specific coping strategies 1
- Planning for a meaningful future without the deceased 1
- Strengthening ongoing relationships with living family and friends 1
- Telling the story of the death in a therapeutic context 1
- Learning to live with reminders of the deceased 1
- Establishing an enduring connection with memories while moving forward 1
Cognitive-behavioral therapy techniques form the foundation of effective complicated grief treatment, with both face-to-face and internet-based formats showing efficacy. 5
Refer to: Social workers, counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists, or clergy trained in grief therapy 4
Pharmacological Treatment: When and How
Criteria for Initiating an SSRI
Consider sertraline or another SSRI only in these specific circumstances: 2, 5
- After 8 weeks of psychotherapy with inadequate response to grief-specific interventions 2, 5
- When comorbid major depressive disorder is diagnosed using validated tools (PHQ-9 score ≥10) 4
- As adjunctive treatment alongside ongoing psychotherapy—never as standalone treatment 2
Important Caveats About Medication
- SSRIs may be more effective for depressive symptoms than grief-specific symptoms 2
- Evidence for medication effectiveness in complicated grief remains limited and equivocal 5
- Therapeutic interventions for complicated grief may be more effective when combined with SSRI administration 2
- Do not prescribe antidepressants for normal grief—this is inappropriate treatment 3
Dosing When Indicated
- Sertraline: Start 50 mg daily, may titrate upward after one week if needed 6
- Escitalopram: Alternative option, start 10 mg daily 6
Treatment Algorithm
Follow this stepped approach:
- Immediate assessment: Screen for suicidal ideation first in all patients—refer emergently if present 4, 6
- Distinguish normal from complicated grief: Use time course (>6-12 months) and functional impairment as key indicators 4, 1
- For normal grief: Provide self-care education, normalize the experience, and schedule follow-up 4
- For complicated grief: Refer immediately to specialized grief therapy (CGT) 1
- Reassess at 8 weeks: If minimal improvement despite good therapy adherence, consider adding SSRI 2, 5
- Screen for comorbid depression: If major depression is present (PHQ-9 ≥10), treat depression first—this often improves grief symptoms secondarily 4, 6
Common Pitfalls to Avoid
- Never prescribe antidepressants for normal grief—this medicalizes a natural process 3
- Do not delay psychotherapy referral while "watching and waiting"—early intervention prevents chronicity 1
- Avoid assuming all bereaved persons will develop complicated grief—most will not 4
- Do not use medication as standalone treatment—psychotherapy is the primary evidence-based intervention 1, 5
- Never dismiss cultural, religious, or spiritual factors that shape grief expression and coping 4
Supporting Ongoing Relationships and Meaning
Help patients: 4